decisions…

Sometimes you just have to decide. There’s no more wavering, just a decision to be made. Sometimes circumstances force you to, then it’s very relieving, but other times you just have way too much room for indecision. You have too much time and/or too many options. How to decide?

Making decisions can be a difficult task – it might even seem unsurmountable at times. You are going to have to live with the consequences of your decision, worse yet, somebody else might have to live with the consequences. Oh, the responsibility! Your solution: RUN!! run from the torture of having to make any decision. Run from the risk of having to carry any responsibility. or…

here’s my two cents worth: as hard as it is to make a decision, it can get easier. “How?” you may ask. Well, that’s simple, the same way most other things become easier: practice. The more you make decisions, the easier it is, the more you try to avoid them, the more intimidating they become.

So, here’s the deal: begin with little decisions. Practice just deciding, ONCE, and sticking to that decision. “chocolate or vanilla?” chocolate! and now stick with that decision! There’s no “or maybe…”. DO NOT second guess yourself! Once you’ve practiced with a few smaller decisions, take the challenge of one bigger decision: Am I going to go out with my friends friday night, or not? whatever you decide, remember: stick to that decision!! (this one will be especially difficult, ’cause it involves other people, people who are going to try and influence your decision-making).
(remember, this is an exercise to help you actually MAKE a decision, it doesn’t mean that every decision you make HAS to be final; but when practicing, try and make them final, that will help you prevent the flip-flop behavior, the indecisiveness.)

I recently heard someone say: “you don’t make a right decision; you make a decision, and then you MAKE IT RIGHT!”

Too many people get stuck in their holes of indecisiveness, don’t join them!